What would the world be like without feelings?

As highly sensitive people, feelings makeup our entire world. Unfortunately, as a society, we have a firm belief that feelings are extremely unnecessary. I have always thought that to be a hilarious notion, but people seem to think otherwise. As an exercise, I decided to explore these options. What would the world be like without feelings?

Science fiction movies and television shows have depicted ways that life would be different. Star Trek introduced the Borg. Doctor Who introduced Cybermen and the Daleks. All groups were once human beings who were then turned into robots devoid of emotion. These robots roamed the universe attempting to annihilate the weakness known as feelings by making every being a robot. While this scenario is portrayed over many decades in many forms, I want to take the time to delve a little deeper than this common fear. Not simply a society, what would families be like without feelings?

What would families be like without feelings?

Let’s explore the idea: Biologically, a man and a woman is necessary to make a family. A world without feelings would pair a man and woman, based on their genetic makeup, in order to make the healthiest and smartest progeny possible. Love is no longer a factor. Would individuals then need to have rules to keep monogamous? Would individuals be able to satisfy their biological craving to procreate with anyone they chose? The sexual drive would still be there, the desire to be a moral person would no longer be there. What then would the result be?

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Experiences of an anxious working introvert

On a recent discussion with a friend, she expressed,

“I tried to time my nausea so I could at least eat breakfast. It never worked though. Any time I had my breakfast in front of me, I was nauseous.”

Before going into work every morning, my friend felt physical symptoms of her anxiety and introversion. Each work day brought a new challenge to overcome. A new experience to be forced to undergo.

Going into work is an everyday occurrence for the majority of people. Get up around 6am. Get ready to leave for work. Maybe get the kids ready for school and head to work. Get home from work around 5. Make dinner, feed the kids, get them ready for bed and then get to bed yourself to start the process over the next day. Every day is the same.

For someone with introversion, dealing with the monotony of a 9 to 5 work day, 5 days a week, can seem purposeless.

For someone with introversion, dealing with the monotony of a 9 to 5 work day, 5 days a week, can seem purposeless. Money is necessary to have somewhere to live, to feed oneself, and take care of the ones you love. These feelings have caused my friend to feel trapped in her situation. She has to go to work. She went to school and took out student loans to get an education to improve her life. She cannot leave her job despite how much stress it might be causing her.

Meeting new people everyday who expect excellence from her, attempting to deal with the politics of government work and not knowing what new obstacles to expect have caused stress that demonstrates itself physically. The experience is toxic and troublesome. As difficult as it was to hear, I understood her feelings. Experiences common to the extroverted nature of the workplace overwhelm her. The time she spends at home she spends stressing about how the day went, what she could have done better and cringing over the parts that went wrong.

I asked my friend for permission to tell her story to you all. I did not want to give advice or comment on her experience. I simply wanted to share her experiences with you all. Perhaps this story will resonate with you. Overall, I hope this story brings awareness to the plight of a self-proclaimed anxious introvert.

Sometimes, I just need a couch potato day

Sometimes, you just have those days where all you want to do is

Absolutely nothing.

A couch potato day

You eat pizza and ice cream and binge watch Extreme Homes, Once upon a time, or Star Trek. You know, all the shows you wouldn’t admit to anyone else that you watch. You take a bath, ignore all calls and never change out of your pajamas. A genuine couch potato day.

There are feelings you can’t exactly help and after a grueling week of work, you know it’s going to be one of those days. The worst moments are when these feelings arise after a recent vacation or long relative visit. But sometimes, it just hits you full on, and it feels as if there is nothing you can do about it. At times, the feeling has been so overpowering that it scared me. As if it was demanding that I stay in a comfy place and not over exert my mind or my body. I would be so angry with myself. How could I be this way? How could my body react to life this way and I feel so powerless to stop it?

Well there has been a lot of reasons and a lot of self-realizations, but I’ll go through just a few here.

First, the powerful, almost crushing, force I felt to stay still was my body telling me I needed to relax. Why did I need to relax so desperately? Because as an introvert I needed time for my brain to process things. Then I would ask myself, why does my brain need so much time to process things? I realized that, subconsciously, my brain was working through a hundred things at once and when my brain told me to stop, not slow down, but completely stop, it was on the verge of coming to a conclusion.

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