How to be positive every day

Let's be honest first. 

I am not a naturally positive person. 

Nope. Not at all. 

I choose to be positive each and every day. 

And I did not do this alone. I had the help of the people who loved me.

So I'm here to be your person. 

Let's talk about how to choose to be positive each and every day. 

 

First, let's let go of negative beliefs. 

Recognize when something happens and you automatically think:

  1. It's my fault
  2. What did I do wrong
  3. Why does everything happen to me
  4. I'm a failure

Some of this sound familiar?

Well let's work on getting past it. Once you recognize that you think of yourself and your life in a hurtful way, you can decide to change it. Surprised it’s that simple?

Well answer me this, has anything else worked so far? Has critiquing yourself, berating yourself and harming yourself ever made you feel better about yourself?  No. It hasn’t.

I’ve been there.  I’m justified blaming myself for every little thing I did wrong in every flaw I had. I said that I needed to be harsh on myself for these faults in order to change and improve them. But being so critical of myself never improved my flaws or made me feel better about who I was.

People would tell me that I was negative. They would not want to talk to me for too long. Yet it still took the comments of someone I loved to realize that by hurting myself I was also hurting my loved ones.

That’s when I started to question. 

Has being this way ever made me happy? 

Have I ever been one of those people with ultimate confidence? 

Have I ever been comfortable being me? 

Did you answer no to all of those questions like I did? 

that’s when I decided to make an effort into being positive. I said to myself, I mean even if it was a lie, it couldn’t hurt me anymore than I had already hurt myself right? So I agreed to “lie” to myself and it was the beginning of the rest of my life.

 

Now that you’re with me on this positivity journey

Let’s talk about how to actually go about doing it.  

First. Telling yourself good things is not lying to yourself.  

I want you to say three good things about yourself every morning. Whenever you feel bad during the day, repeat these good things. It is NOT lying to yourself. Telling yourself bad things has only made you feel bad, therefore it follows that telling yourself good things should make you feel good about yourself right?

Second. Everyone has amazing qualities. You aren’t pretending to be someone else by acknowledging these things. 

Accept all that is good in you! Write it down! Stop pushing it away. If you do not support how amazing you are then why would anyone else?! You do have good qualities and you deserve to be proud of them. The further you accept yourself the better you will feel and the better other people will feel about you. All parts of you make you whole. Once you stop seeing yourself as good and bad parts, you can start seeing yourself as a beautifully whole person who was created by the brilliance that is the universe. Doesn't that sound amazing? (If you're struggling to believe this, please reach out to me, I can help you be happy and confident!)

Third. Everyone has bad qualities. Acknowledging and accepting them makes you strong. Not weak.  

People will always find a reason to not like you. If you do not accept all parts of yourself, then their comments and words can crush you. Do you really want to give someone else that power over you? To affect how you feel about yourself? What you think about yourself? Take your power back. Accept that you are a human being and that all parts of you make you who you are. Who you are is beautiful. You were made whole by having many different aspects and qualities. You could not be real, or balanced with the universe if you did not have both the yin and the yang, so why punish yourself for the parts of you that you think are less than? You don’t berate a duck for being skinny or fat or the wrong color. right? or a dog or a cat? You love it for what it is. Why don’t you do that for yourself? 

Fourth. Bad things will happen to you. they are not a reason to be depressed.  

If you focus only on the bad things that have happened to you. You only get more bad things. If you focus on the good it has come out of bad experiences or the strong and helpful way that you went through those bad experiences then you can see them in a positive way and create more positivity in your life. You don’t have to be devastated when something bad happens because there is nothing helpful and feeling that emotion.  On the bad things that have happened to you. You only get more bad things. If you focus on the good it has come out of bad experiences or the strong and helpful way that you went through those bad experiences then you can see them in a positive way and create more positivity in your life. You don’t have to be devastated when something bad happens because there is nothing helpful and feeling that emotion.  What you actually want to do is be elated that you got through something terrible with grace and strength.  This is not a trick or a joke. It is a way a reframing your mind so that when someone cuts you off in traffic or makes fun of you or disrespect you at work. You will realize how trivial there ask R. because they are the ones acting poorly. You can only control what you do. And if you do good and positive things and think in that way none of those are bad or negative things can affect you. And the more you do it the more you  Will realize that you have this barrier of light protecting you from even caring about anything negative or hurtful. It takes a lot of time. But you can see the small differences and it feels amazing. 

So let’s go through what we have learned to do so far.  

  1. Tell yourself three good things in the morning. 
  2. Accept all that is good in you! Write it down! Stop pushing it away. If you do not support how amazing you are then why would anyone else?!
  3. Take your power back. Accept that you are a human being and that all parts of you are is beautiful. 
  4. If you take the time to reframe painful situations, they become simply lessons with positive results. Wouldn't it feel good to stop fearing life's outcomes and instead enjoy the path?

The final, beautiful message?

Positivity begins from within. 

Life is about being positive. It is about thinking positively about who you are. It equals a choice to continue. A choice to enjoy every moment. Feel good, think good thoughts. Do the work. You deserve it. 

Tell me how you stay positive!