Tip One: Listen to yourself to feel amazing
[Extra video content at the end of the post! Watch the video to get a quick synopsis of the post and some bits that just make more sense live :)]
When I discovered I was highly sensitive, I scoured the internet for any information that I could find about sensitivity. Of course, Dr. Aron's website and book had everything you could want and more, but I found that a lot of websites (annoyingly) had articles like "7 tips for surviving has a highly sensitive," "10 tips on how to survive being sensitive in the works place." And I thought to myself, these people must not be sensitive, because a sensitive person would already KNOW that too many tips would be extremely overwhelming. My brain is already mentally exhausted from the strain of reading, interpreting and imaginatively applying the suggested changes.
Hence, I've separated my tips :) and to top off, there are very short videos attached to each tip just to make it a little easier to consume the information AND Q & A Instagram lives on the following Tuesdays. [Yes it's jam packed with easy ways to consume the information. I just want to help in the best way I can!]
So let's get started.
Tip One: Listen to yourself to feel amazing
[And of course a detailed story to start us off :)].... I was driving home from work in the rain. It was dark and my sensitive anxieties piqued up. I was worried about sliding and not being able to see the road. And then of course I started to worry about other people sliding and not being able to see me clearly! So what did I do?
I listened to my sensitivities. I decided to drive in the right lane.
So I could drive slowly and calmly, not worrying about possibly dying (HSP dramatics hehe) by not seeing someone or having them slide into me. It might not be the go to solution for everyone, especially at the end of a long, stressful work day, but it works for me. I cut out the anxiety of not knowing how hard the person in front of me is braking, not being able to determine how my car react and the always present factor of human error. It felt good to take care of myself and listen to my sensitivities. Even if it was difficult for other people to understand.
Let’s continue on this ride.
After I exit the highway, the road is always clogged up. People push to merge, cut each other off and honk their horns. All that anger seems to grow with each of my heartbeats until it feels overwhelming. I dissuade those feelings by letting people in front of me. If people want to push and shove just to be one, two, three cars ahead of me, I think to myself, "be my guest" or possible sing the Beauty and the Beast song (Ha. Ha. Ha :p). It's very likely, the person who cut in front of me won’t get home any faster than me. To continue the positivity train I'm on, I also like to choose to let at least one person into the line, because then I've done a kind thing and I can feel even better while everyone else seems so angry around me for the sake of my sanity and peace of mind. Two ideals which are really really important to me and try to prioritize over everything else.
I will always choose peace of mind over negativity.
The third way I listen to my highly sensitive nature is by taking the long way around when there are too many people trying to get into one lane. One particular spot on my route often becomes fairly congested. There is no space to merge. Therefore, people will go in the wrong lane, just to cut you off often backing up the line, leaving people in the middle of a busy street. Instead of being angry at the people only thinking of themselves by cutting other people off, or becoming furious at being stuck in the middle of the busy road, I take the long way around. I go completely around this congested area and elect to sit and wait at more stop lights than I need to just to avoid the rising turmoil that overcomes me whenever I try to take the same congested way as everyone else. I choose to listen to my sensitivities.
I choose to do what is weird or complicated to listen my highly sensitive nature because I value caring for myself and how I feel.
These small changes in my daily routine may seem trivial to some, but to us highly sensitive people, we know how invaluable these changes can be to our overall tranquility and sense of self. We can choose to do whatever is required in order to take care of our feelings and our needs. Whether that means doing laundry in the apartment building on a Saturday night, or going grocery shopping at 10pm on a Monday, just to avoid the crowds, going about your business however you need to stay calm and happy. Stay safe and stay sane is a good motto to conclude here I think. The world seems to be constantly pushing us to the edge until we feel like we are always there waiting to tip over. I meditate to keep myself at a calm middle. Please please listen to yourself. You are absolutely important. Your happiness and peace of mind are incredibly important. So try this week to change your routine and take the weird paths, the alternate routes, and avenues of tranquility that only highly sensitive people can see.
How do you listen to your highly sensitive nature?
I'd love to hear in the comments :)
Now its time for the extra content! Watch the video below to get a quick synopsis of the post and some bits that just make more sense live :)
Look out for the Q & A Instagram Live the following Tuesday to answer any and all questions you might have about this Tip. You can find me @OneSensitive on Instagram.com